Is fairness in relationships overrated?

ABC 211: On fairness, labor, and the patriarchy

On the doorstep of having our first kid, I’ve been thinking a lot about domestic labor.

My wife and I have read a few parenting books (and learned some crazy stats: working moms today spend as much time on childcare as stay-at-home moms did 40 years ago!). One question on our minds is: how should we divide the additional work of raising a kid?

A 50/50 split is the only aspiration that makes sense to me, but I’ve come across some people (mostly men…) who argue constantly calculating and dividing tasks equally can be detrimental to a healthy partnership.

This week’s piece dives into this loaded question: Should couples aspire to split domestic labor evenly? It was fascinating to read because I wasn’t sure what to make of it. Curious to hear your thoughts.

Here’s the piece: I Quit the Patriarchy and Rescued My Marriage

Warmly,
Simo 

P.S. The song of the week is my off of Bad Bunny’s new salsa-inspired album. The full songs of the week playlist is here.